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Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't) Paperback – March 1, 2020

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A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.

“We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark—very dark.”

Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality—the “other,” the shadow side—is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses—our “existential kink.” Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power.

In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliott, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light. Inviting us to make conscious the unconscious, Elliott asks us to own the subconscious pleasure we get from the stuck, painful patterns of our existence.

Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures,” love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliott shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.
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“Elliott, founder of online magazine Witch, encourages the exploration of taboo desires hidden within the unconscious mind in her evocative debut. Elliott uses the Jungian concept of the shadow to posit that repressed and denied aspects of oneself manifest in negative ways, and she moves on to argue that individuals, on an unconscious level, can enjoy these feelings, and “get off” on the “forbidden enjoyment” they bring to one’s shadow. Her meditation method (“existential kink”) is presented as a “radical, somatic, hot, immediately practical and quick method” to bring these patterns to light, therefore dismantling them by tapping into one’s unconscious mind and “soul-spirit” realms through meditative and spell-casting practices. Elliott cracks many jokes throughout and warns about the correct mind-set for EK practice, emphasizing that those who are depressed or experiencing the first stages of loss or grief should proceed with caution. Elliott also shares stories of clients who have found success with her EK method, and there’s a question-and-answer section to clarify EK’s purpose and goals. Elliott’s novel methods could help spiritual readers looking to bring more positivity into their lives.”
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“I have a confession to make. There are some painful stories of my past that I have held on to for far too long. It never made sense on the surface. Why would I obsess over these situations? Why can’t I just let them go? Carolyn Elliot’s Existential Kink provided the answer that I’ve been searching for all these years: on some level, I “got off” on these sad stories. Playing martyr felt good. When I began applying the practices in this book, I was able to turn around that thinking and release those trauma tales once and for all. This book will challenge you to look at your shadow side in a new way. Instead of ignoring it or covering up the old scars with ‘love and light,’ you’ll learn how to find power in the darkness. When you do that, a funny thing happens: you’re free.”
—Theresa Reed, Astrology For Real Life - A No B.S. Guide for the Astro-Curious

“Carolyn’s words cut through the popular light washed self-help and spiritual cannon, offering deep soul relief and a celebration that warmly invites our shadows to be unleashed from closets shrouded by shame. Beyond soul relief, Carolyn shows us that our spiritual growth and magical practices can be deeply fun even in their slimiest iteration. Her skillful way of teaching ancient tantra and alchemy that we can access without robes, mantras, or gurus is a gift.”
—Alexandra Roxo, author of F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power

About the Author

Carolyn Elliott, PhD, founded the online magazine WITCH to give voice to the subtle “witching” in the world that’s not confined to tradition and convention. She’s also the creator of a popular online course and an online business specializing in helping people achieve dramatic positive change in their lives through shadow integration practices and applied occult philosophy. Elliott has a PhD in critical and cultural studies from the University of Pittsburgh and writes poetry, plays, and fiction. She resides in her hometown of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, with her family.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Weiser Books (March 1, 2020)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 224 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1578636477
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1578636471
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 9.6 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.25 x 0.5 x 8 inches
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Abby R Neville
5.0 out of 5 stars Revealed my kink!
Reviewed in the United States on February 27, 2024
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This helped me deep dive into my unconscious and unpack some of the things I’ve been suppressing that is keeping me from achieving my desires. This book helped me realize much more than I have before!
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Holly Kiefer
5.0 out of 5 stars I want to turn this entire book into a T-Shirt.
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I wish I could beam it directly into the brains of everyone who ever thought they were a crap person because they couldn't “love and light” their pain away.

All the rotten things you've experienced throughout your life? The things you've done, and the things you've had done to you? They were bringing you to your highest good.

That might sound ridiculous. It IS ridiculous. It's also true.

Existential Kink is an easy read. Which isn't to say that it's absolute brain candy, but that this book takes some incredibly dense material (Jung and the Vedas, anyone?) and makes it readily consumable. Downright NOMMABLE.

To be fair, it isn't ALWAYS super easy, and these concepts can be personally challenging. But if you are willing to look just a little deeper, (and if you're drawn to a book called Existential Kink, something tells me you are a curious human, willing to at least glance at the depths of your psyche) there is so much more joy accessible to you.

Craving the life of an ascetic monk? Don't read this book. This work isn't for people who need to hole away in a cave on a mountain in order to find themselves. It's for people who want to find joy in their jobs, their bodies, their companions, in their daily lives. My life is so much brighter and more meaningful since I began applying EK to it.

The exercises are simple, and easy to introduce into your life. More importantly, they're fun. EK helps you tap into your eyebrow-arching, side-eye smirking, villainous side. You get to feel dirty/bad/wrong in a super enjoyable way.

If it feels like you've been taking your life waaaay too seriously, this is the book for you.
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HotBlossoms
5.0 out of 5 stars Worth the read, worth the money. Even if you don’t do it.
Reviewed in the United States on May 18, 2020
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Whether you put the work into implementing this program or not you should come out ahead just from getting a foundational understanding of the concepts in Existential Kink. While the New Age movement has us chasing good vibes and thinking only positive thoughts, Existential Kink presents a practical way to take all the heavy, low vibration stuff in our shadows that we simply CANNOT shake off and gives a relatively simple way to approach them with unlimited inward curiosity, compassion, and healing acts of radical self acceptance. Thereby loosening their grip on us and lightening their vibrational load so we can carry more of the love and light that attracts better manifestations. That’s the LEAST this book can do. Examples of hard-to-shake low-vibe stuff that can really throw a wrench in our manifesting magic: those immature and cyclical habits with money and relationships that feel so heavy and inescapable, feeling trapped in circumstances, enduring epic life failures, persistent superficial perceptions that fuel judgment and assumptions, anything that triggers a negative adrenaline response that feels like righteous anger (but looks more like road rage), obsessive meaningless ambitions to prove something, replaying unpleasant conversations in the mind, the weird feeling of satisfaction from being justified and right regarding your knowledge of something particularly awful that you *should* rather be wrong about, feelings that are painful to suppress that lead to passive aggression, resentment, irritation, frustration, disrespect, a desire to argue; and repressed feelings of shame that underlie deeply rooted physical, mental and emotional anguish, like the feelings of ugliness, humiliation, self hate, and traumatic memories of abuse and abandonment that paralyze our courage and hijack our self control, causing us to repeatedly desire the very things that we know we’ll forever regret... at the very least, you will finish this book with the curiosity you need to raise all those vibes even just a notch, which can be all you need to resonate and magnetize better things, situations, people and outcomes. Go for it!

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It’s been a couple years and I will say this really stayed with me. By understanding my own human and divine nature I have been able to catch myself before falling into the traps of my own triggered responses to people and events that used to lead me down a predictable path of blaming, judging and resenting others. Because once I could see and love myself as I am, it was self evident that underneath our own self judgement, shame and denial, at the root is the truth that we are already worthy, warts and all. I suddenly perceived others whom I would typically fear, blame or judge much more neutrally. And out a genuine loss of interest in feeling unworthy, I chose to no longer follow my old impulses to explore all the negativity, pride or insecure feelings when others trigger them in me. I remember that only I can suppress my own joy. So it’s more and more often that I truly can’t be bothered and instantly let things go out of sheer disinterest in engaging with the negativity and it simply disappears. But when it doesn’t just disappear because some bit of negativity seems stuck in our energy, I have a keen sense to feel it lingering because it’s so rarely there anymore. In that case, I bravely approach the heart of the matter with vulnerability and love. I no longer allow things to fester in my relationships. I instantly confront the other person with all the love, patience and curiosity I learned to give myself, knowing that they are not wrong to have whatever feelings they have and showing them that I care enough about them and our relationship that I won’t pretend that I don't notice their passive aggressive behavior or allow myself to become bitter with resentment. I remain courageously loving, respectful and considerate no matter how they react so we can make a decision together about how to proceed in a way that honors ourselves while respecting the other, knowing that this is a boundary for me. I am willing to kindly part ways if I truly find it best, granting them forgiveness as I do so. My own personal choice to remain free from festering negativity and my willingness to honor my boundary even if they don’t (by parting ways) tends to garner a great deal of respect from the other person and I am given their gratitude, honesty and relief. And I’m okay if one day it didn’t, because it would help me understand it may be best to simply forgive them and let them go anyways, at least until they are also on a more mature path and seek nothing more but to express their understanding of my decision. That has happened too, with very satisfying results.
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Ashley Phillips
5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing!
Reviewed in the United States on March 13, 2024
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Ok, whoa. I wasn’t exactly sure what to expect from this book, but my husband and I started reading it together and our lives started shifting almost instantly. It encouraged us to get real about all of our subconscious beliefs and admit that we secretly loved the uncomfortable ones. We have dismantled our old limiting beliefs, brought them up to our conscious life and things are shifting big time!

My husband is brightening before my eyes. Worries about money and opportunities are nearly gone and he was just offered a large position upgrade at work. It genuinely feels like magic!

This book is not for the faint of heart. It wriggles into the subconscious and it is very uncomfortable to stick with, but it will make a difference if you can stick with it!
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Andrae
4.0 out of 5 stars Overall decent read
Reviewed in the United States on April 8, 2020
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My main takeaways from this book revolved around Being honest about your subconscious programs and the dark side of you that is cocreating behind the scenes. The author makes a solid case that by ending the resistance to the unflattering shadow self, you free your energy up to do other things. You allow yourself to be more totally. It may take some folks a little while to fully integrate the way she frames it, especially if you follow a more mainstream understanding of Law of Attraction or a different paradigm. This book challenges your self perception and pushes to look at yourself as a kinky, wild, untamed being who likes the suffering you’ve been manifesting in order to empower self to create change. My initial reaction is that the packaging won’t resonate with everyone, but the source of her message is pretty sound. In short, if you feel drawn to this book, it’s worth reading. If you don’t, then that’s okay too.
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Anna Leigh Leighton
5.0 out of 5 stars A Mind-Expanding Journey into Self-Discovery and Empowerment!
Reviewed in Canada on January 22, 2024
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"Existential Kink" doesn't just scratch the surface; it digs deep into the layers of the human psyche, encouraging readers to explore their desires, fears, and fantasies. The author's bold perspective on merging pleasure with personal growth challenges conventional thinking and opens the door to a new realm of self-discovery.
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Rachel F
5.0 out of 5 stars Mind bending & not for the faint hearted
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 22, 2023
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An essential read for anyone who is looking for a different, revolutionary & direct path to healing, growth & expansion.
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Nadine Jensen
5.0 out of 5 stars Die Bibel!
Reviewed in Germany on February 12, 2022
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Was für ein unglaubliches Meisterwerk! Ich habe dieses Buch verschlungen! Auch wenn mein Englisch gar nicht so gut ist und die Sätze teilweise lang und mit einem Haufen unbekannter Wörter waren. Ich habe mich gerne in dieses Buch vertieft. Welch eine Fülle von unterschiedlichen Methoden, die alle auch sehr mit der ursprünglichen Methode zusammenhängen. Ich habe bisher noch keine Methode erlebt, die Schattenarbeit mit so viel Spaß und Sexapeal angeht. Danke!
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Karolina
5.0 out of 5 stars Embrace your kinky!
Reviewed in Sweden on June 27, 2021
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Amazing book; one of the bests in my life ; if u know deep down your a kinky person and want to face it : )
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Tamires Paezani
5.0 out of 5 stars Got enlightenment?
Reviewed in Brazil on March 8, 2020
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What a fabulous book.
Carolyn artfully combined her extensive academic and spiritual knowledge with a fun, approachable and fluid writing to guide you through your realm of shadows. As she keeps pointing out and I couldn't agree more, enlightenment is about making the darkness visible, to loosely paraphrase papa Jung. This book shows you the way. The technique is fun and pleasurable.
On average, we have no idea who we are. Existential kink is going to help you to shamelessly acknowledge your true self. In doing that, you'll seamlessly slide into perfect cosmic synchronicity and life becomes an exciting adventure.

Everyone should be reading this book, but I especially recommend it to the true seekers of the truth, to the brave and rebellious ones who would attain godhood themselves.

NOW WE WANT THE MONEY BOOK, CAROLYN!
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