I read the reviews here before I purchased the book, and I particularly remembered the 2-star review griping about the example of the husband who forgot to take out the trash. So I was watching for that passage in the book, and was interested to read the text. It turns out, the reviewer in question grossly misrepresented Mr. King's words. In fact, the book's conclusion regarding this example, is the exact opposite of what that reviewer alleges!
King states that trying to use a reward system to "condition" your partner into doing what you want is "not exactly a mature way to deal with problems in a relationship." Instead, he advises the reader to "ask for what you want"!
I ask myself: why would someone go out of their way to misrepresent what someone else said just to make them look bad? In a social context (as King describes in another section, citing a formal study of middle school behavior) the person spreading rumors and disinformation might be expected to personally profit from tearing someone else down: this is an unfortunate but very real aspect of human behavior, particularly notable in our modern politics. But there's not a lot of social status conferred by having dozens of people rate your misleading review as "helpful."
The only reasonable conclusion is that there are many people in this world who do not want YOU to learn to be more assertive. Perhaps they believe that their status in life depends on your submissiveness.
And that's precisely why you should read this book. It's clearly written, it cites sources, it offers actionable advice. And above all, other people don't want you to read it. That should be enough to convince you that you need to read this book.
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Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist and Conversation Coach based in San Francisco, California.
He has sold over 1 million books, and he is one of the world's foremost authorities when it comes to social skills, social psychology, and human behavior.
When he's not helping clients conquer the world, he's either fronting an 80′s cover band or training for his next 10k.
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Some people are terrified that you might learn to become more assertive
I read the reviews here before I purchased the book, and I particularly remembered the 2-star review griping about the example of the husband who forgot to take out the trash. So I was watching for that passage in the book, and was interested to read the text. It turns out, the reviewer in question grossly misrepresented Mr. King's words. In fact, the book's conclusion regarding this example, is the exact opposite of what that reviewer alleges!King states that trying to use a reward system to "condition" your partner into doing what you want is "not exactly a mature way to deal with problems in a relationship." Instead, he advises the reader to "ask for what you want"!I ask myself: why would someone go out of their way to misrepresent what someone else said just to make them look bad? In a social context (as King describes in another section, citing a formal study of middle school behavior) the person spreading rumors and disinformation might be expected to personally profit from tearing someone else down: this is an unfortunate but very real aspect of human behavior, particularly notable in our modern politics. But there's not a lot of social status conferred by having dozens of people rate your misleading review as "helpful."The only reasonable conclusion is that there are many people in this world who do not want YOU to learn to be more assertive. Perhaps they believe that their status in life depends on your submissiveness.And that's precisely why you should read this book. It's clearly written, it cites sources, it offers actionable advice. And above all, other people don't want you to read it. That should be enough to convince you that you need to read this book.
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Reviewed in the United States on October 8, 2023
King states that trying to use a reward system to "condition" your partner into doing what you want is "not exactly a mature way to deal with problems in a relationship." Instead, he advises the reader to "ask for what you want"!
I ask myself: why would someone go out of their way to misrepresent what someone else said just to make them look bad? In a social context (as King describes in another section, citing a formal study of middle school behavior) the person spreading rumors and disinformation might be expected to personally profit from tearing someone else down: this is an unfortunate but very real aspect of human behavior, particularly notable in our modern politics. But there's not a lot of social status conferred by having dozens of people rate your misleading review as "helpful."
The only reasonable conclusion is that there are many people in this world who do not want YOU to learn to be more assertive. Perhaps they believe that their status in life depends on your submissiveness.
And that's precisely why you should read this book. It's clearly written, it cites sources, it offers actionable advice. And above all, other people don't want you to read it. That should be enough to convince you that you need to read this book.
Some people are terrified that you might learn to become more assertive
Reviewed in the United States on October 8, 2023
I read the reviews here before I purchased the book, and I particularly remembered the 2-star review griping about the example of the husband who forgot to take out the trash. So I was watching for that passage in the book, and was interested to read the text. It turns out, the reviewer in question grossly misrepresented Mr. King's words. In fact, the book's conclusion regarding this example, is the exact opposite of what that reviewer alleges!Reviewed in the United States on October 8, 2023
King states that trying to use a reward system to "condition" your partner into doing what you want is "not exactly a mature way to deal with problems in a relationship." Instead, he advises the reader to "ask for what you want"!
I ask myself: why would someone go out of their way to misrepresent what someone else said just to make them look bad? In a social context (as King describes in another section, citing a formal study of middle school behavior) the person spreading rumors and disinformation might be expected to personally profit from tearing someone else down: this is an unfortunate but very real aspect of human behavior, particularly notable in our modern politics. But there's not a lot of social status conferred by having dozens of people rate your misleading review as "helpful."
The only reasonable conclusion is that there are many people in this world who do not want YOU to learn to be more assertive. Perhaps they believe that their status in life depends on your submissiveness.
And that's precisely why you should read this book. It's clearly written, it cites sources, it offers actionable advice. And above all, other people don't want you to read it. That should be enough to convince you that you need to read this book.
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Vikram
This is awesome book which teach us loving ourselves
Reviewed in India on October 15, 2019Amazon Customer
Good ideas and very helpful
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 25, 2022