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Missed Her Kindle Edition

by Ivan Coyote (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 39 ratings
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Ivan E. Coyote is a master storyteller; her beautiful, funny stories about growing up a lesbian butch in the Canadian north attract audiences both gay and straight. In her fifth collection, Ivan addresses issues of family, queer youth, and homophobia with a trenchant and wistful eye.
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    Arsenal Pulp Press
  5. Publication date
    August 31, 2010
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    343 KB
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"These vignettes read as though they've been freshly torn from a wanderer's notebook, where they were immediately jotted down so as not to lose the vibrancy of the experience. The result is refreshing and tearfully real—Coyote has a gift for blending the tragic and comic in a way that renders a reader gobsmacked.... The writing in Missed Her is direct yet lyrical, poetic yet unadorned, reaching simultaneously for the heart and the gut with brevity and power." —Quill & Quire (STARRED REVIEW)

"With this collection, more than ever, Coyote delves into the seriousness of sexual conventions and gender roles with a wit that bridges a gap between city and country, oral and written, the self-conscious writer and the contemplative reader."
—The Globe and Mail

"Her stories, all culled from her personal experience, yield a glimpse of a life not frequently spoken of in mainstream queer circles. Coyote’s perspective on small town queer life resists what Judith Halberstam calls 'metronormativity,' or the assumption that queer desire and community cannot exist fully outside of urban centers."
—Lambda Literary

"My favorite book this year without a doubt has to go to Ivan Coyote’s Missed Her. This collection of short stories are a honest, beautiful and complicated weaving together of queer experience that will break your heart and stitch it back together. Missed Her left me cracked open feeling raw and seen in a way that only the very best books are capable of. It’s an absolute must read." —Sassafras Lowrey, editor of Kicked Out (from Band of Thebes' list of Best Books of 2010)

"Warm, perceptive storytelling ... These tales, a bracing blend of self-effacing and brave, embrace universal themes within singular moments – 'Good Old Days,' about teaching memoir writing to a class of senior citizens, both confronts Coyote’s concerns about their potential prejudice and realizes the sentiment that 'love is just love.'" —Richard Labonte, Book Marks

"Coyote’s sense of humour and genuine affection for people from all walks of life bridge urban-rural gaps that might otherwise preclude an effective exploration of the social markers that attempt and fail to define us in traditional, heterosexual terms. The effect is akin to attending a party where Coyote has invited all of her friends and family: it’s a motley assortment of people and ideas, but no one feels out of place, and everyone is welcome." —Georgia Straight


"These vignettes read as though they've been freshly torn from a wanderer's notebook, where they were immediately jotted down so as not to lose the vibrancy of the experience. The result is refreshing and tearfully real―Coyote has a gift for blending the tragic and comic in a way that renders a reader gobsmacked.... The writing in Missed Her is direct yet lyrical, poetic yet unadorned, reaching simultaneously for the heart and the gut with brevity and power." ―Quill & Quire (STARRED REVIEW)

"With this collection, more than ever, Coyote delves into the seriousness of sexual conventions and gender roles with a wit that bridges a gap between city and country, oral and written, the self-conscious writer and the contemplative reader."
―The Globe and Mail

"Her stories, all culled from her personal experience, yield a glimpse of a life not frequently spoken of in mainstream queer circles. Coyote’s perspective on small town queer life resists what Judith Halberstam calls 'metronormativity,' or the assumption that queer desire and community cannot exist fully outside of urban centers."
―Lambda Literary

"My favorite book this year without a doubt has to go to Ivan Coyote’s Missed Her. This collection of short stories are a honest, beautiful and complicated weaving together of queer experience that will break your heart and stitch it back together. Missed Her left me cracked open feeling raw and seen in a way that only the very best books are capable of. It’s an absolute must read." ―Sassafras Lowrey, editor of Kicked Out (from Band of Thebes' list of Best Books of 2010)

"Warm, perceptive storytelling ... These tales, a bracing blend of self-effacing and brave, embrace universal themes within singular moments – 'Good Old Days,' about teaching memoir writing to a class of senior citizens, both confronts Coyote’s concerns about their potential prejudice and realizes the sentiment that 'love is just love.'" ―Richard Labonte, Book Marks

"Coyote’s sense of humour and genuine affection for people from all walks of life bridge urban-rural gaps that might otherwise preclude an effective exploration of the social markers that attempt and fail to define us in traditional, heterosexual terms. The effect is akin to attending a party where Coyote has invited all of her friends and family: it’s a motley assortment of people and ideas, but no one feels out of place, and everyone is welcome." ―Georgia Straight

About the Author

Ivan E. Coyote is the author of four previous story collections (including 2008’s Lambda-nominated The Slow Fix) and the novel Bow Grip, selected as an ALA Stonewall Honor Book. Originally from the Yukon, she now lives in Vancouver.

Product details

  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B004ASONH4
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Arsenal Pulp Press (August 31, 2010)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ August 31, 2010
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 343 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 160 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 39 ratings

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Ivan E. Coyote is a trans writer, performer, and author of eight books published by Arsenal Pulp Press, including Gender Failure (co-written by Rae Spoon), the young-adult collection One in Every Crowd, and the novel Bow Grip, winner of the ReLit Award. Ivan is also the co-editor (with Zena Sharman) of the anthology Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme. Born and raised in Whitehorse, Yukon, Ivan is now a resident of Vancouver.

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4.8 out of 5 stars
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Emerald
5.0 out of 5 stars Sensational in its simplicity and exquisiteness
Reviewed in the United States on August 8, 2013
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My unreserved recommendation of _Missed Her_ to anyone who reads is so much a given it almost feels distracting to point it out amidst the desire to somehow convey in words the splendor I experienced among its pages. More than in most instances I've ever observed, this collection exemplifies the capacity to capture moments and preserve them in the pristine purity of seamless prose.

That prose either takes what may seem ordinary moments and infuses them with exquisiteness or perhaps just outlines the exquisiteness inherent in every moment so we recognize it ourselves. Whichever it is--and maybe it is both--Ivan Coyote does it in a subtle, almost mysterious way, so that I feel it the whole time I'm reading but, looking back, do not know exactly what the author did to make it that way.

The book's format lends itself to fast, satisfying bursts if that is how one wants to read it; each short is only a few pages long. Each of them is also self-contained, so skipping around is not an issue. I myself found this form lent itself to quick reading, though I also often felt so captivated that I kept reading even if I had only planned to read one or two stories in a sitting.

The moment I finished it, I could tell _Missed Her_ was the kind of book I won't get all there is to get out of without reading more than once. I don't know if I have ever experienced that awareness more upon finishing a book. In this collection, there are the words, and then there is the sense, that which is above and below and between the words, like a presence of its own that gathers and makes this book not just a book but a part of the reader--as existent and penetrative and ever-changing as energy itself.

I've often recommended books, but in this case I implore: please, read this. I would not do so were it not difficult for me to imagine anyone's experiencing life in a somehow lesser way for doing so. I suspect it far more likely that, as for me, the contrary will be the case.
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Dave Parker
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful gender-bending short stories!
Reviewed in the United States on January 1, 2011
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As a straight activist in the GLBT community, I am always trying to gain insight into tho thought processes and life experiences of my friends in the community. This is a wonderful presentation of a multitude of short segments - probably from Ivan's columns - about life and relationships by an estrogen-based organism that self-identifies as a butch lesbian. The stories may be her/hir personal experiences or those of her/hir friends, relatives, and acquaintances. All are vignettes about interactions between interesting people.
These articles reflect Ivan Coyote's sense of humor while presenting a different view of gender variance. Her/Hir description of her/hir deeply emotional reaction when forced by her/hir mother to try on a dress for a wedding when she was eight years old exemplifies how wrenching social pressures can be to a young gender variant child.
Highly recommended, especially for those trying to relate to gender variant individuals.
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MC
5.0 out of 5 stars "Missed Her": Warm, Wise, and Folksy Take on Love, Family, and Gender
Reviewed in the United States on December 4, 2016
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I was drawn to buy Missed Her after hearing Coyote's performances of "Butch Roadmap" and "The Femme Piece" (retitled "Hats Off" in Missed Her). Coyote on stage is warm, clever, unique, and personable, a joy to watch - and their writing is the same. Ivan Coyote's work reminds me of A Prairie Home Companion of LGBTQ culture, with Coyote acting as a sort of queer Garrison Keillor.

Missed Her - and Coyote's other work - is sharp, funny, and always openhearted, the views of someone who "refuses to get into the gender box and close the lid."
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ashley lauber
4.0 out of 5 stars Beautifully written.
Reviewed in the United States on August 7, 2015
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Ii really enjoyed this book. It gave me a peek into a perspective that I don't normally think about. Also, it was beautifully written.
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Roxanne
5.0 out of 5 stars Another hit from Coyote
Reviewed in the United States on November 15, 2010
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After reading every book Ivan Coyote has published, I have to say that this was another great collection of short stories. Coyote is a story teller in the truest sense and her stories are always brilliantly formed and entertaining. If you are familiar with and love Coyote's other collections of short stories, this one won't disappoint. Some of these stories will be familiar to regular readers of Coyote's column in Xtra but they have been reworked in many cases so it doesn't seem repetitive, but polished. I enjoyed this collection and recommend the book.
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Shae Flanigan
5.0 out of 5 stars everything you hope your first experience reading an author will be
Reviewed in the United States on February 11, 2014
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Sometimes you watch an author read their work and its magical, then when you attempt to recapture that magic and pick up one of their books, you're heartbroken to discover their emotion and voice doesn't translate onto the page. That isn't the case with Ivan Coyote. His words carry the laughter, hesitance, and frustrations of his travels. You would be sorely remiss to not pick up this book.
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sannyasin
5.0 out of 5 stars Ivan never disappoints!
Reviewed in the United States on March 23, 2014
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The book is written in the same warm, loving and down-to-earth manner that is ultimately Ivan. There is a sense of family values, strong strive for identity, but also the story is written in a very laid back and young, playful tone. Absolutely love this book!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Beautiful and inspirational writing
Reviewed in the United States on March 18, 2016
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Beautiful and inspirational writing. Challenges thoughts surrounding gender and identity. Not only was it a book I couldn't put down due to the captivating stories and imagery, it also helped me discover more about myself.
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Allyson
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in Canada on May 25, 2018
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A Canadian treasure.
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Amazon Kunde
5.0 out of 5 stars Berührende Geschichten
Reviewed in Germany on November 6, 2014
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Mittlerweile bin ich ein echter Fan von Ivan E. Coyote geworden. Ich mag ihren Umgang mit der Sprache und die kleinen Pointen in ihren Geschichten. Was mir besonders gefällt ist, dass ihre Stories von einem liebevollen und staunenden Blick auf ihre Mitmenschen geprägt sind. Geschichten mit Tiefgang, die dennoch nicht schwermütig sind!
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manuela
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 13, 2014
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Love love love Ivan E. Coyote, such a talented storyteller! I treasure Ivan's books.
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Lumenator
5.0 out of 5 stars Eins der besten von Ivan E. Coyote
Reviewed in Germany on January 9, 2011
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Ich muss gleich sagen, ich bin noch nicht ganz durch mit dem Buch, aber ich bin jetzt schon total begeistert.
Die Geschichten sind unheimlich Gut zusammengestellt und geben einem viel Stoff zum Nachdenken, Schmunzeln aber auch das ein oder andere Tränchen darf verdrückt werden...
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